Ok, so here is my point of view:

I am selfish. It is that plain & simple.

I like to buy what I want when I want and not have to sacrifice what *I* want to buy, Of course being a parent there are sacrifices we all make, but having nice things is important to the both of us. We both like to spend, and we both like nice things. The world these days is so busy I dont know how people have large families (anymore than 2-3) We are so busy with one!

We also like to make sure we have enough money to buy DD and future children have nice things. (we only have one at the moment) DP and I both work full time, and honestly, I wouldnt have i any other way. DD does her extra curricular activities through school and we attend her performances. What would I do all day while the kids are at school? ITMS?

Anyways, I MIGHT have another 2 children, but we will see. I have to consider taking time off work, the expense of daycare @ 12mths old (possibly before 12 mths) and everyday living, as well as DD's extra curricular activities and her schooling expense.

DP and I think 3 is plenty (considering the age gap of DD already) and i refuse to drive a van

BTW - I hope no one is offended by my post - this is how *I* feel