Forshelby, your example of smacking for hitting a child is exactly what always comes to mind when I think of why smacking is ineffective. If i have to correct her behaviour in that instance, then logically how can i do the same thing she would be in trouble for? For me, parenting is also about setting the best possible example I can as an adult.

So that includes not yelling, swearing, hitting, insulting, manipulating, putting down, etc, etc, etc. And apologising when I make a mistake, whether that was to my child, partner, or anyone.