Are we parenting her right???

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DD2 (almost 22 months) is quiet a headstrong and determined little girl. We're in the process of trying to determine if she has some senory issues as well.

the question im wanting to ask is the way inwhich we often need to her do thing/stop doing things..
we almost always need to 'compromise' with her, its 'if you want to do this you need to do that first'... or if you want dessert then you need to eat this first. i also have similar issues with clothing where i often have to offer two sets of clothes to pick from.
is it ok to parent like this if it works? am i doing the wrong thing? is this giving her too much control?
she doesnt talk much, but her comprehension is amazing, she screams/shrieks alot too

im not even sure that what im asking or saying even makes sense.