I hate hospitals. I hate pregnancy clinics. DH has always been with me though. When we had to go back for meetings after DS1 died, we scheduled mertings in the social work dept to avoid the pregnancy mgmt ward.

I also had counselling. I was learning Mindfulness in the anticipation of DS2's birth. This is a bit like retraining the mind and body so going to hospital wouldnt cause so much stress. I can PM you details.

We had nearly all our appointments with our private midwife in our own home and only went to hospital when everything went wrong again. That meant we weren't exposed to that kind of stress.

Is it possible to have your appointments either at home with an IM or a community clinic? Or with a private OB in their consulting rooms? Also look at phobia specific or PTSD related therapy. Things like kiniesiology work at removing trauma at a cellular level. I think EFT does it too. Self-hypnosis or hypnotherapy can also help.

Counselling is good but it's limited if it's just talking about things. You need techniques to help on a deeper level. Ideally I'd suggest a homebirth but obviously that wont work for a c-section.