hi moose

just wanted to add my 2c worth
i actually gave birth to my ds 13 days after my due date, so there's no way i could have done it. i also couldn't hav handled being a bridesmaid 2 weeks after that. the first few weeks are just way too full on. you'll most likely be working hard to establish breastfeeding and getting to know your baby and yourself as a mother.
have you considered just going to the wedding as a guest but not a bridesmaid? in my honest opinion, that's what i would do in your situation.