First OB appointment, what to remember?

[HotI]

What do you want out of the appt?

YOu might want to talk about ultrasounds during pregnancy, labour options (including VBAC), hospital options (if there is more than one).

are you interested in midwifery care?

any concerns you have from your DDs birth.

[Charlotte91]

I think I'd rather be under my one OB. I hate being RWH because I rarely got the same OB twice. It sucked.
There's a midwife in town, who I relied on with DD because of my labour scares and check ups.

There's only one hospital, which is 1 1/2 hours away. Our best mate looks like moving to town so I'll be able to labour as long as I want at his place before a 5 minute trip to the hospital. Rather than going too early.

My main concerns about DD's pregnancy was that no-one ever told me what was going on. I was just told what to do and I was very much out of control. I never want to feel like that again.

What exactly should I mention about my VBAC? I'm going to get one, no excuses.

I'm scared about giving birth. I don't want to be out of control again. I'm already feeling very anxious and having nightmares.

[HotI]

What exactly should I mention about my VBAC? I'm going to get one, no excuses.

Not sure whether this will come up in your first appt or later, but it will be good to get info on the Ob and hospital's policies and philosophy in relation to vbac. How supportive will they be, what do they require, what do they consider negotiable? Is there anything specific to your scar that will affect future births?

Later, you may also want to look into hospital policies and procedures on c sections (i recommend this when planning any birth, not just a vbac), and work out the things that are most important to you if a c section was necessary.

If you will travel for the birth, wonder if it worth looking for a doula or midwife (or student) in the town you will birth in. You could talk on the phone during the pregnancy to build up the relationship and decide on the role they can play.

keep talking and working things through.

[Maruschke]

I'll be thinking of you on Monday . You might not be able to go through all these things in 1 appointment, but I'd be asking for a "debrief" discussion and a "planning" discussion, either now or sometime in the near future.

[HotI]

i still haven't written out a birth plan for this birth, so plenty of time for you to do it.