IT sounds like you're in a really difficult situation, have you considered seeking professional advice and counselling? Your partner sounds scared and not ready, and to be fair to him, he is only 19 and maybe it's better that he's honest with you than he tells you it's all fine then runs for the hills when it's too hard for him. I know you're not much older, but you sound ready for this, and based on what you're saying he isn't.

I fell pregnant about 6 months into my relationship with my husband. He behaved very badly, I had a termination of pregnancy and I was very sad about it for some years. But we've now been together for 8 years and we have a wonderful 3 and a half year old son. I'm very happy and I have no regrets.

Having a child when you're ready is a lovely thing and I had a really easy time of it. Having one when you're not ready is a huge strain on relationships and on people. Babies are hard work. I'm not trying to dissuade you from the course you've chosen, I just want you to be damned sure that you know what you're getting into because parenting usually involves long hours with no break, not even to go to the toilet! It's true that babies don't cost much, but it's also a bit simplistic, because I can tell you I would have a lot more money if I was working instead of caring for my son! The only new clothes I have are from op-shops and they don't fit right. And I'm not complaining because I went into this with eyes wide open. I hope you keep your eyes wide open when you are making your decisions on where to live and who to share your life with and whether you are ready for the commitment of parenthood.

I don't envy your situation, it sounds really difficult. Best wishes for you and those around you.