I'm sorry too, that's horrible.
Someone needs to have a word with that woman, is there anyone you could complain to? As if getting that kind of news isn't bad enough!
I know how you're feeling, I was lucky that the second time round my ob took pity on me and let me get a mini scan pretty much whenever I went in. He called me paranoind, but I was prepared to wear that if it meant seeing my little one
Would it help to get one of those dopplers? I think you can get them in chemists or on ebay, and it would mean you could hear the baby's heartbeat whenever you were feeling anxious.
I'm sure everything will be fine this time round