thread: So confused

  1. #1
    BellyBelly Member

    Nov 2005

    So confused

    Hi guys,

    I am so new to this and would really appreciate some advice. I am so confused about what to do now I'm pregnant. I don't know if I need an OB or a midwife, or both... Or something else altogether.

    What do I do now!???!!!??


  2. #2
    Custardtart Guest

    Hi Kylie,
    The first thing to do would be to decide what sort of birth you want, and where you would like to have the baby. If you want a hospital birth, you'll want to book in as soon as possible to get your choice of hospital - some of the private ones fill up their lists pretty quickly. If you're going private, only an OB can book you in, so you'll need a doctors reference to get an appt with the OB.

    Visit your GP and have a chat about your local options. One thing that concerned me about my booking was that I booked in when I was six weeks pregnant, but didn't get a confirmation til 12 weeks - I since found out that this is standard, the hospitals will take bookings as early as you like, but not do confirmations until you are 3 months pregnant.

    If you decide on a home birth you'll need a midwife, your local MCHN will be able to provide you with a list of people who operate locally and might even be able to suggest one who specialises, if you have a prerence for waterbirth or something a little less common.

    Most of all, don't stress! Enjoy being pregnant as much as you can, because there will be good days and not-so-good days. Take care of yourself - don't let yourself get run down and start taking a pregnancy multivitamin, if you aren't already. Iron deficiency can make you feel absolutely dreadful, and folate is necessary for your baby's development.

    Good luck!


  3. #3
    BellyBelly Member

    Nov 2005

    Thanks guys

    No I definitely don't want it at home. Especially not my first time. I'm thinking I wouldn't mind a midwife in a hospital though....

    I already know about the iron deficiency thing even though I have been taking multivitamins that have iron in them :-s


  4. #4
    getinmybelly!! Guest


    as a public patient I saw my GP and at my 8 weeks appointment he sent a referral to the hospital I wanted to go to (Geelong). They then contacted me with my first appointment which was around 12 weeks and they offered me an ultrasound.

    At my antenatal appointment I spoke to a midwife and had the option of chatting to my appointed OB (not that I got to ever see mine with DD).

    I am doing shared care between my GP and the hospital...

    Go see your GP and they'll explain all your options. At Geelong you can have just midwives if thats your wish.

  5. #5
    BellyBelly Member

    Nov 2005

    Thanks getinmybelly Which did you have for your daughter?

    The GP just said tell me which OB you want and I'll give you a referral :mad: maybe things are different in Sydney??

  6. #6
    BellyBelly Member

    Jun 2005


    Her in canberra I have the option of shared care with my GPand hospital. the midwife clinic/natural birth centre ( on the waiting list) or an OB and private hospital....

    If you just want a public hospital birth, I think the GP can refer you, maybe just call the hospital and find out.. As I am on the waiting list for the birth centre I have to register for the normal hospital program... They have visiting days so maybe visit and get an idea...

  7. #7
    BellyBelly Life Member

    Jul 2004
    House of the crazy cat ladies...

    Hi Kylie

    If you are planning on going public, you just need to work out which hospital you want to go to, and book in there as early as you can. You will need a letter of referral from your GP.

    When going public you can choose to do 'shared care' where you see your GP for some appts, and go to the hospital antenatal clinic for the other appts.

    With my pg I decided to just do all appts with the midwives at the hospital (as I didnt like my GP very much), and I have no complaints, they were fantastic there (except for the long wait in the waiting room!). I even had one of the same midwifes from my appts deliver my son!

    I'm not too sure about Private though... but I think the other girls have been through that already.


  8. #8
    Fee Guest

    Hi Kylie

    I decided ages ago that I wanted to go private and chose my hospital. I also recently decided on an OB. So when I went for my BT at the GP I just asked her what happens next (if my BT turned out to be positive). She said I would have to choose a hospital etc. I told her I had already decided on a hospital and OB. So she told me just to ring up and book in and she would do up a referral letter.

    I'm going to ring up on Monday to book in. And I asked the GP what happens next / do I need to see her again etc. She said no, unless I have bleeding. So I guess I just wait for my first scan with the OB.

  9. #9
    And the truth is we don't know anything
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    Jan 2005

    Hi Kylie,

    Depending on if you are a 'low risk' pregnancy, you also have the choice of team midwifery (at a public hospital that has this option) where you see a team of midwives and only see an OB for a couple of visits, or if they refer you to one based on your circumstances.

    I have private insurance, but am going public in a public hospital with this baby, doing shared care with team midwives & my GP.

    There's some info on the web, google 'having a baby in victoria', theres a website there that explains each type of 'model of care' available etc.

    I can't remember whether your from Vic or not, but it should still be relevant regardless.

  10. #10
    Registered User

    Aug 2004
    Hunter Valley, Wine Country, NSW

    Kylie Wherabouts in Sydney are you? I`m asking this as I know Dr Phillip ****s is a great OB with a good name and wonderful bedside manner, he delivers at Westmead Private, not sure if that`s anywhere close to where you live.

  11. #11
    BellyBelly Member

    Nov 2005

    Thanks DeeJoy,

    I'm not really near Westmead, but at this point am taking any recs

    Am thinking about the womens and babies hospital at RPA as a private patient. Not sure. Sounds like they have a birthing centre with widwives and other cool sounding stuff. If only they'd ring me back :roll:

  12. #12
    BellyBelly Member

    Jul 2005

    Hey there Kylie

    I'm at St George public and they are fantastic - it is a learning hospital so they pretty much have the most up-to-date info....

    Anyway goodluck and happy pregnancy


  13. #13
    BellyBelly Member

    Jul 2005


    Michelle Battey is a really good female OB who delivers at North Shore Private and The Mater which is close to you (North Ryde right?). Her offices are in St Leonards and a few of the girls on here have seen her and I would like to see her as well when I get pg. Also Felicity Gallimore in the same office, is supposed to be a great OB.

    Dr Battey is supposed to have a lot of experience with high risk pregnancies.

    I have seen North Shore and the Mater with my gf due next month and another friend has delivered both her kids at The Mater and they were fantastic.

    Hope this helps hun and big to you