Ryn, so sorry you are having to deal with pushy family esp now. We made a request in our birth plan that no-one was to visit for at least an hour after the birth (which is a long time in my family) they were all outside the labour ward when we had DS. Maybe you could organise a time after bub is born while you are off having a shower and getting fixed up when they can see just baby with DH there to make sure they don't go against any of your wishes and then set a time the following day when you've had time to get yourself organised and feeling confident but stipulate to the midwives that the visit is to be short (15min) and they will come in and ask visitors to leave after that time. Best of luck