Ryn, I really feel for you. It must be difficult not to have a close (stress-free) relationship with your family.

I would be mortified if my family DIDN'T want to be there straight after the birth! As it turns out, my mother is going to be present during the birth (to keep DD amused/take her away if she gets upset) and I couldn't be happier.

I hope you get some sort of resolution/compromise sorted out soon - stressing about this stuff is not good for baby!