Ahhh you poor dear Men are funny sometimes...I can't say our stories are exactly alike at all, but I do know that with each of my pregnancies, hubby has been quite...don't know how to put it? Distant doesn't quite seem right...just that he wasn't overly excited or
'into it', if you know what I mean, until later in the pregnancy - usually once bub can be clearly felt moving around and I actually have a big round belly. It's like it's not a reality for him because it's happening to ME, not HIM.

From what other friends have said, this seems like quite normal male-behaviour. I think if you add to that the fact that your DH has had that tragedy element in the past, I would think he's behaving quite normally. I do feel for you, though....not only is it hard anyway, but you have all those hormones racing around your body as well, which seem to heighten any fears or anxieties or worries you might have. Make sure you look after yourself