Family Complications???

[willow5]

Good lord no. My mother has not been in the delivery room at either birth. I could think of nothing worse.

Couldn't agree more!
I didn't have my mum in the delivery room for either of my 2 births, it's been 15 years now and I haven't changed my mind for the third.

But it is your birthing experience the decision should be yours and DH's.
You should do whatever you're both comfortable with, good luck I'm sure everything will work out in the end

[briggsy's girl]

just thought i'd add - i did have my sil in the labour ward until i went down for c/s - her and DH get along really well, and she was there just as an extra person to take photos and things - and to have someone with me while he went to sleep (it had been a looooong few days)

SIL was ONLY in there cos DH gets along with her - if he hadn't i'd have not had anyone extra. she stepped back and didn't interfere - she didn't make anyone uncomfy etc sometimes an extra person is a blessing - but you BOTH need to agree on who that is

[sweetpea678]

I choose to have my mum there with my first two only because my now ex is hopeless at the birth bit, and mum stayed out of the room unless I wanted her in. With bub no 3 it was me dh and midwifes. My mum never expected to be there with any of the and only came because I asked her to.

To me it is your choice and if you don't want your mum there then you shouldn't.

[~Kim~]

I had my mum the first time, and DH really appreciated someone to support him. This time however everyone (including DH) was 600km away.
With my first bub, MIL was actually the offended one when she asked if she could attend and was told 'no thanks'.
My mum was a little offended when my sister asked me to go with her for her first bub, but she never would have told my sister that.
Geepers that was a ramble, but no I don't think it's that common. She can always be part of doctors/clinic visits, scans etc if you still want to include her....or not - your preg, your decision
I think it really depends on the relationship both you and your DH have with her.

[AwesomeFoursome]

My mum wasn't there when I had ds. Beforehand I couldn't think of anything worse than having her there, but about half way through the labour everything was going wrong and all I wanted was my Mum (besides the pain to end). But she was 5 hours away, so no way of it happening.

Maybe have her on call incase you change your mind in labour.

[mrsmac]

I loved my mum and had a great relationship with her but never had her at either of my DDs births. She never expected to be included and was always the first person I called when the bub had been born.
Since she has died and I have spilt from my 1st husband I kind of wished she had been there for DD1's birth cause then there would have been someone besides me who remembered the birth but its no big deal.
I think its rude of her to expect to be there, I certainly don't expect my DDs to have me at their births.

[Amaunet]

I will be having my mum (along with my DH) - but we have set some ground rules for her - ie DH is the primary support etc. when Blake is born - she can have a quick cuddle (after us) and then she will leave us alone as a family to bond etc.

I always wanted more than one support person, both DH's sisters have complained their DH's wore out too quickly and had to be roused on several occaisions LOL

In the end its your decision and like it or not your mum has to respect that.

[~Hestia~]

No way - my mum is not going to be there when I deliver!! It's not that we don't get along, I just wouldn't be comfortable with her in the room.
Plus giving birth to my son & meeting him for the first time is going to be so special for my DH & I - I don't want to share that with anyone!!
That being said she hasn't asked to be there so I never had to tell her that she wasn't welcome. Your mum should understand that it's your decision though.

[Nai]

No - I think DP would have had a fit if my mum had been there and there is no way that I could have relaxed with her there either.

Second time around my mum and MIL were in charge of DD1 so they had their hands full with their own very important job