Thanks heaps ladies, you have all been very helpful. My freind is coming down on the weekend for a bit of a catch up. Ill take the advice of 'if she bring up the baby ill talk about it', but not in to much detail. I know it must be hard for her and im trying my best to be there for her. Offer to see doctors with her, work on things IYKMIM. I think she is happy for me and she knows how much i want to see her as a mum too. I think thats every girls dream, to become a mum and have her own little family.
Grief, pain, jealousy and hurt are al common things for her, but me not ever being her shoes does not know how hard is it.
I dont want things to be hard between us, she is a good friend and she knows that i love her no matter how upset she can get with me. But at the end of the day we are still mates and always will be.