I absolutely understand that, and just wanted to clarify that I do not at all feel that mothers who have experienced loss in the early stages of pregnancy feel pain that is any less valid than those who have lost their babies later in pregnancy, or to stillbirth or neonatal or child death. For me *personally*, I didn't count my losses as 'babies' and the pregnancies were unplanned (unlike my two DDs who were actively conceived and wanted right from the very start), but I can definitely respect that others don't share my feelings when it comes to their own losses. I just know that I personally am less attached to a pregnancy until I'm in the later part of the first trimester, and would be absolutely shattered to lose a baby late in pregnancy or at term or after, but my early losses didn't impact on me in a huge way like it does others. We all feel differently.





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