Ren - I think it's awesome that you have done so much research and I wish I'd been as informed before I had #1, I take my hat off to you.

Unfortunately a lot of people think they are experts on pregnancy and babies and voice their opinions (mostly negative) all too often and this is unfortunately just the start of it. Older family members and friends have often commented on decisions and choices I have made and sometimes you just have to let it go and keep doing your thing. For example, most of my family had no idea I was BF Ned until he was 23 months and would have been horrified if they knew we were, but I just didn't mention it and did what I wanted to do, knowing it was the best for both of us.

Just follow your heart and you'll do an amazing job.