Ren you have such a great attitude towards life and such a positive outlook on what your birth experience will be like. Positive thinking makes a great difference and you have got it girl! More power to you! You are making sure you are well-informed about birth and bringing your little one home and you are going to be a great mum who I am sure I will learn lots from by reading what you have to write. I hope you keep that positive frame of mind and I am so glad that you arent letting other people's negative/dismissive thoughts or opinions get to you!
Stick to your guns Ren! You are going to be an awesome mummy. Your bub will LOVE the hammock. And you will cruise thru labour like its a Sunday afternoon picnic !!!!!
Your head is completely in the right place for what you are trying to achieve and dont let anyone try and change it for you or bring you down.
Ren sorry to hear that your family rained on your parade don't worry you will do it your way and even then they will probably still tell you that you should have done things differently. Unfortunately, for some people its just the way they always are - negative and 'know it alls'!! What happened to people being polite and supportive to your face and then sniggering in the car in the way home
Sweetie I can't wait til your little one comes and to hear your birth story as I remember you getting your BFP!
You will be an awesome mum and super labour champ! Goodluck!
Ren - I think it's awesome that you have done so much research and I wish I'd been as informed before I had #1, I take my hat off to you.
Unfortunately a lot of people think they are experts on pregnancy and babies and voice their opinions (mostly negative) all too often and this is unfortunately just the start of it. Older family members and friends have often commented on decisions and choices I have made and sometimes you just have to let it go and keep doing your thing. For example, most of my family had no idea I was BF Ned until he was 23 months and would have been horrified if they knew we were, but I just didn't mention it and did what I wanted to do, knowing it was the best for both of us.
Just follow your heart and you'll do an amazing job.
i think you have an awesome attitude renstar & i'm glad you're sticking to your guns. you sound informed & positive and gives you the power to make the decision on what you think is best for you.
i haven't told my mum yet, but i know she had a drug-free birth with me 34 years ago. she said she changed her mind about the epidural at one point but by then it was too late so she just got on with it! she was in her early 30's & one of the oldest in the maternity section - she was proud of how she was up & about quickly after the birth & always said she was pleased that i came early enough for her to be able to have bacon & eggs for breakfast!
DP's mum was pretty similar - i think she went for the gas but found out later it wasn't actually working!
i feel confident that they'll support whatever decision we make on the birth & i feel pretty lucky to be in that position.
Don't get me wrong, my MIL and my Mum are very supportive of me and they will support me no matter what but just sometimes you get comments that are "old school" comments kwim?!?! LOL just shows how the times have changed..... its as if people think cos its your first born that you will have nooooo idea on what to do etc but really all the info is there by talking to others, reading about it etc and being informed!!
I don't think the times have changed all that much. In my mother's day they did it without drugs. My mum is obviously a little older than yours!!!! My mum thought my gas thing was fantastic when she saw it in the labour ward. Women a little younger than her had the drugs & a lot of young women now want the drugs.
Pretty much everyone I knew before I gave birth told me to go for the drugs regardless of their age.... young & old. I think when they tell you this they are trying to prepare you for the reality of birth. Some people do get birth with pain that is manageable without drugs but most don't. Most women resort to at least using gas.
IRL over the past 20 or so years I have only met one woman that actually acheived a drug free birth and hers was a water birth. I've only met one other that said it didn't really hurt but she still used gas. All the rest used a combination of gas, peth & epi.
I do hope you get your drug free birth if that's what you wish for, but please don't be disappointed if it doesn't work out that way. Only one woman from my mothers group had the birth she truly wished for. All the other women in the group apart from myself are under 30 & there has been talk of planned c sections in order to avoid labour again. Every young woman I know IRL plans to use drugs in labour. That's why I say not a lot has changed.
Anyway, best of luck for the birth experience you want. By the way not all babies cry all night. I hope you get a calm one like we did. Not one sleepless night so far (touch wood).
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don't worry you will do it your way and even then they will probably still tell you that you should have done things differently. Unfortunately, for some people its just the way they always are - negative and 'know it alls'!! What happened to people being polite and supportive to your face and then sniggering in the car in the way home 
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