Webbmeg - thats a great way of looking at it.... you're right about the validation side of things. And fair enough too huh.... everyone needs acknowledgement for what they went through, good or bad
I think once I go through labour/birth with this bub, I'll be able to say to Mum "thanks for going through all that for me!!" as I'll understand it all better.
I'm just sooo damn excited about the soon to be labour and birth of our first child!!! It's so exciting!! I just can't wait to experience it all...... the good and the bad!! But when i say that to people they think i'm mad for thinking like that
Your next birth will be just as you hoped hun And even if it isn't, you tried. And you were excited about it all and that's what matters! We go in with a positive mind huh.
Ren, could you get some recent books on labour, birth and parenting for your rellos to read? I was extremely fortunate in that my mum started reading a ton of magazines on pregnancy and parenting and was always saying "Things have changed so much!". She had four kids with no drugs, up in stirrups with my dad safely locked out of the room. Imagine that? How horrible for her and all women who had to endure that back then (the birth in a room full of strangers that is). She didn't ever offer unwanted comments or advice though, and didn't blink an eyelid when I begged for an epidural (which I did without) or when my sister did a year later. She understands that each woman, labour and birth is different and now that our babies are here, she is still happy to learn 'new' parenting techniques and fandaggled contraptions like my hug-a-bub.
Sorry, this has turned into a post about my mum.
It's hard when the people around you aren't supportive, especially when you're so excited.
Overall my Mum has been SUPER supportive, don't get me wrong! She's just awesome! And sooo excited about it all!!! (her 2nd grandchild) just sometimes she's a bit "old school" in her way of thinking just like the rest of the rellies were on Sunday. Just got me thinking about how times have changed so much or perhaps like someone else said, they had a horrible birth experience and believe that that is how it is for all of us... kwim?
Anyways, I'm still positive about my impending birth and SUPER excited and noone can change that hehe
as I'll understand it all better.
But when i say that to people they think i'm mad for thinking like that
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I appreciate that!! 
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