Reply With QuoteI would say "I will be sure to tell the child that when they are older" Or "you must be confusing me with someone who cares what you think"
Bugger them - it is really none of their business.
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We found out last week we are having #6. It was hard enough dealing with ignorant comments from people with #5. I'm feeling stupid enough getting caught out as it is.
I am really nervous about what people are going to say, and I have really no idea how to deal with inappropriate comments, particularly at work.
I'm thinking I should alternate between the icy stare, "That's a really inappropriate comment," or "That's really none of your business".
I'd be interested to hear how other people might have approached this issue.
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I would say "I will be sure to tell the child that when they are older" Or "you must be confusing me with someone who cares what you think"
Bugger them - it is really none of their business.
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Firstly, CONGRATULATIONS!!!
Good on you, very brave to be taking the plunge with number seven, i totally applaud you!
Not really sure what to say, but "care factor: zero" (oh how very adolescent), has always been a favourite of mine.
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Congratulations! Both my parents come from families of 7 kids, and big families are so much fun!
People just say those things because of ignorance and they have nothing better to say. Perhaps just point out 'oh we don't view children as a burden, we see them as a blessing, so we feel really lucky to be expecting another!'
So 'oh you'll have your hands full!' Say, 'yes, we're really looking forward to it' - or a favourite of mine 'we'd rather full hands over empty hands any day'.
All the best with your pregnancy, people have been having large families for many many years! (perhaps point that out too :P)
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It's so nice to hear the word "congratulations"! I've spent this week freaking out - but I'm having a baby... that's a good thing!
Congratulations! Both my parents come from families of 7 kids, and big families are so much fun!
People just say those things because of ignorance and they have nothing better to say. Perhaps just point out 'oh we don't view children as a burden, we see them as a blessing, so we feel really lucky to be expecting another!'
So 'oh you'll have your hands full!' Say, 'yes, we're really looking forward to it' - or a favourite of mine 'we'd rather full hands over empty hands any day'.
All the best with your pregnancy, people have been having large families for many many years! (perhaps point that out too :P)
It *is* nice having a large family. Our five kids are fairly spread out in age, and it's a lot of fun, particularly at Christmas and other times like that. There will be nineteen years between this baby and the eldest. (That makes me sound very old - I'm only thirty eight!)
These suggestions are helpful. It is just so amazing what people will say about a pregnant woman, isn't it?
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Congrats
When we fell preg with number 4 ( I had 3 boys) All we heard was.. oh going back for that girl are you yada yada. Eventually my husband turned around and said no.. We are hoping to finally get one we like.. Or we stuffed up the first 3 thought we might give it another shot
Hoping for a happy and healthy Pregnancy
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Heheh, that's great.Congrats
When we fell preg with number 4 ( I had 3 boys) All we heard was.. oh going back for that girl are you yada yada. Eventually my husband turned around and said no.. We are hoping to finally get one we like.. Or we stuffed up the first 3 thought we might give it another shot
Hoping for a happy and healthy Pregnancy
I've got five girls now... so yes, I can imagine we'll get the "trying for a boy" comments. And if it *is* a boy, there'll be comments, and if it *isn't*, there'll be comments. To be honest, I think those comments hurt the most because they necessarily put down the girls. I *LOVE* my girls!
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Congrats
-you are very blessed !
Also, i only care about commends, from people I CARE about, so don't worry about it ! what does it matter what they thing, the most important thing is that you guys are happy !
everything happens for a reason ... people also make the mistake to judge by their own standards ...
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I feel exactly the same!! And when they comments are made in front of my boys I feel so bad for them.. I usually bring it up later and say we love them and we didn't have another baby cus we wanted a Girl.. We tell them we wanted another baby cus they made us so happy we wanted more..
the comments never end... and if you do get a boy and then decide on no more people will say.. Well you got your boy now you can stop.. I feel so bad for my boys when people say those comments..
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Im only on #3 and also my 3rd DD...and i always get the comments of 'Oh you going to try for aboy next' 'your brave' etc
And i simply say 'No..i love my girls and i was blessed to be able to have 1 child let alone 3 darlings...'
Shuts em up quickly.
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You know, that's exactly right.
A couple of times this year someone has asked me how many kids I have and I've said "five" and they've said, "How wonderful! How lovely for you!" and that has been just such a lovely change.
I think if I didn't feel so stupid or irresponsible in myself (this was totally unplanned and not a very good move for me in many ways) I probably wouldn't be worrying so much what everyone else thinks. Dd5 was a delightful "oops" and I just feel like at my age, I should be beyond that, you know? It's like that line out of the Importance of Being Earnest: once is an accident, twice looks like carelessness. Or something like that.
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I read once that someone had said to a girl "Don't you own a tv" to which she replied "If you prefer TV you're doing it wrong!" Another is yeah I slipped and fell on a banana peel
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congrats
my advice to you is... who cares what anybody else thinks. what does it matter? dont let THEIR opinions get to you. its not worth it.
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I am having #5 at 40 so understand where you are coming from lol.
Funnily enough I have had comments from my family about when are we going to stop.
My mum actually said she wanted lots of grandkids just not from the one person. She had 4 of her own and only 2 of us has children ATM. I don't think my brother or SIl will be having any more (they have 2) and my other sibs don't look like having any at all.
My eldest DD (13) has told me that if I have any more she will make me have an abortion and I went right off at her. I told her that it is up to DF and I how many children we have and she has no say in it what so ever.
In the town that I live in we have many larger families, so we are not unusual.
Tell them to bury their heads lol it is up to you
Congrats on #6
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Another comment I've heard is "We'll stop when we get one we like" That shuts people up too
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well i for one believe babies come to you when THEY are ready, and so it's meant to be! all my pregnancies when i was younger were contraceptive babies, and even last Dec when i fell pg with Joshua. so i'd be more likely to say to rude people "well actually, we're trying for a rugby sevens team" and walk away laughing. some of my friends come from larger families, and they tell me wonderful stories of growing up with a houseful of siblings.
congratulations and best wishes for a happy and healthy pregnancy and bub!
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Congratulations on expecting your #6 ! That's so special and another important little person to be added to your family!that's so exciting! You must be a wonderful Mummy.
Just ignore people's rude comments..... it's so easy for people to be negative, especially these days unfortunately. They are either jealous, misinformed or very UNHAPPY people
Enjoy your pregnancy!
ps I'm looking forward to having a nice sized family also, probably 4 kidlets
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Congratulations. I am No. 5 in a family of 6 and I have always loved being from a big family. My younger brother is 7 years after me, and he was definitely an 'oops' and my mother was 41 when he has born (16 years between the eldest and youngest). She now says that having him that much later meant that she continued to do things that younger mums were doing - school tuckshop etc, and she also made a whole new group of friends through women at his school who she still sees now. My mum is now 66 and all my friends thinks she is a total glamour and looks a good 10 years younger (even though she does nothing to help this and thinks she everyone is silly when they compliment her). So I think you should feel proud and it is just rudeness when people make a comment about your pregnancy. As I am from a big family and I have 15 nieces and nephews, I had to constantly put up with people telling me that I was going to have a honeymoon baby. Trust me, it doesn't matter what you do, people will always have something to say.
So if people do say things, just say that you are a delighted (or something) and happy to be adding to your family. It says more about them than it does about you! So congrats and good luck for the remainder of your pregnancy.
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