Planning my own Baby Shower

[MissM]

HI There,

I am considering planning my own baby shower for those that would like to buy us something for the bubba, but am a little concerned its not the 'done thing' and was wondering if anyone has planned their own baby shower?

Any advice of wording etc or what to do?

[TeniBear]

If I hadn't planned my own, it never would have happened. It seems not many people know anymore that they're not "meant" to be planned by the expecting mum


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[PumpkinZulu]

I'm planning my own. Not exactly a babyshower (blessingway) but close enough. I don't see anything wrong with it. I went to Teni's and loved it!

[HotI]

I planned my own. It was good, exactly how i wanted it

[Jennie13]

I wish I planned my own...My mum and xmil planned mine, a suprise babyshower. Was good, but xmil invited all her family whom i have nothing to do with, and some of my close friends didnt get an invite. I had my suspisions (sp?) but i had to pretend that I didnt know what was going on. Sorry if I sound really ungratefull!!! lol It would have been much better if just mum and I planned it, I could have had who I wanted there.

Plan your own, it will be awsome Good luck!

[*LittleMissSummer*]

I planned my own too. Though i was very slack and my SIL helped out a lot and it turned out to be a great day.

I wanted really special invites but i ended up just going to the newsagents and getting a pad full of invites from there and sent them out. But i googled baby shower invites and there are some great ones there.

I planned games and colouring in for the kiddies that came. My SIL made some awesome food so we mostly sat around chatting, eating and playing games which were hilarious. I got some really great gifts from my friends and family. I got things that i didnt think i needed and have become very useful.

[Danielle_NZ]

I'm going to plan my own... but I want it uni sexed and not a traditional one... thinking more along the lines of a BBQ (Boy B Q) where we can celebrate the pending arrival of our new little man.

Not sure on when we are going to have it yet and I'll have to get a move on so I can make all the invites and send them out. If I was back in NZ I know my girlfriends would have planned one for me but we have a very limited number of friends over here so thought uni sexed was the best option so it's enjoyable and not one of those events that you wish you never had :-)

[sconeonamission]

I have been planning my own, with help from my mum and mil.

I think traditionally, someone is supposed to plan it for you, and you're there as the guest of honour...

There are certain games I want, ones my mum wants ans ones mil wants. I'm trying to please everyone, but ultimately, this way its my decision in the end.

[MissM]

Thanks Everyone

I still feel a bit rude planning one, even though we don't expect gifts, but there are people that want to buy so thought it would be easier to do a baby shower, rather than tell people individually what we *need* ya know?

Im still a bit undecided on what we will do ....

[HotI]

I don't see a baby shower as fishing for gifts. For me it was taking time out to get together with friends and family before baby arrived.

[PumpkinZulu]

I just sent the invites out for mine. Re gifts I just said something along the lines of:

'Gifts are definately not necessary, your company is more than enough! However, if you would like to give a gift, I will be posting a small list as a general guide of things we would appreciate. Please also feel free to disregard this too '

[Iona Macca]

I planned my own but had 2 of my friends host it on the day....it was much easier for me to plan and get it organised then someone else but i'm also one of those kinds of people that likes to be organised etc

[joey123]

I am wondering if I should have one also. This is baby #2, not counting my first cause she is now 12 ... so is i greedy to have another one? No one has offered to throw me one. I didn't organise my first one and was a bit dissapointed ... no games and not the invite I was hoping for, but SIL did go to a lot of trouble with food and decos. I guess I just had something different in mind.

[MissM]

I dont think your being selfish at all joey! I never had one for DD, no one threw one for me, but ive been to ALOT in the past year, and figure that if its ok for everyone else to have them, then i can too!

My problem is DF and I are really picky with what style we have, we like modern things, and I know this may sound ungrateful to others, but we do not expect others to buy anything at all, we were talking about buying everything we wanted then having a list of things we need that people can choose from..... I've been to baby showers that have a cot as a gift right down to a magazine!

Im still so undecided, and was hoping this thread would help me make my mind up I might visit the idea again in a few months to see how I feel about it ...

Thanks everyone

[Jaycee]

I am planning my own baby shower, this is bub number 2 but i never had one with DS, and I figure this is most likely going to be my last baby so why not! I don't see anything wrong with planning your own, at least it'll be exactly what you want

[berrme]

I planned my own with DS1. Just a lunch with some of my friends. I didn't want games.
People wanted to know what to get so I gave them a list of stuff we still needed. Noone wants to feel like they got you something you will never use!

Joey, I have been wondering whether I can have one with this bub. It is my 3rd baby, but my first girl. Surely that makes a difference?? Basically I think we can do what we want, have another one if you want to... people buy you presents whether you have a shower or not. Every baby is exciting!

[joey123]

Joey, I have been wondering whether I can have one with this bub. It is my 3rd baby, but my first girl. Surely that makes a difference??

I think it's totally justified cause you won't have lots of girls stuff. This is my second girl within 2 years so we have heaps of stuff.

[Danielle_NZ]

Joey, I have been wondering whether I can have one with this bub. It is my 3rd baby, but my first girl. Surely that makes a difference??

You could have baby boy invitations and cross out boy and with a pink vivid put "Girl" :-)