I was told at 12 wks that i was having a girl and my SIL also found out at 12 wks that she was having a boy...and both times they were correct. I'm not telling you this to upset you, i just don't want you to put your hopes on future scans. Yes - they may well be wrong but don't hold your breath iykwim.

My mum had 2 boys and 2 girls and she is the closest to the youngest son. She has a great relationship with all of us but her 'special' one is my brother Scott - and he's 19 now. I never particularly desired a son but Mum once said to me "It'd be nice for you to have a Scotty" and i know what she means. They have a lovely friendship I don't think it has anything to do with the gender of a person as to how it will affect your relationship with them.

I'm sorry you are feeling so down about it right now (and you do have every right) - but like you've stated, take comfort in knowing that your baby is healthy because when your baby is unwell the gender becomes a distant memory.