The only alcohol I had with DS1 was a sip or 2 of DH's beer occassionally - cause i really, really wanted beer - but was just so scared of it doing any damage so didn't do anymore then that.

But with DS2 I was alot more relaxed. I had a few glasses of champagne at different special occassions throughout my pregnancy and the occassional west coast cooler when i wanted it (they are usually my summer refreshing drink anyway). I have no problem with it and I think my boys have turned out ok.

I say do what makes you comfortable - there will be no judgement from me on the night.