BW and BG- I am still on the other side of the fence, but I think I can still add a comment here, as I have already thought about the fact that when we do finally have a baby, it will not solve all in our life...it will not totally erase the hurts and the losses and the anger...it won't undo the changes in the person I am...it will just change things, and help some aspects heal and help me move on to another chapter where hopefully the fulfillment will help some of the other things heal more and move forward...but i dont think it will ever totally heal things, as I said...nor will I ever be the person I was before I started this process. I think you have to accept that some of the changes are OK..you are only human...and on the positive side, you will always now have more empathy and understanding and sensitivity for others in the same boat.
The woman at your church does not sound nice...so many people are really ignorant and insensitive...sometimes i feel like i am surrounded by them.
And you will always have a place in your heart for the angel babies...and the occassional what-if thoughts.
Take care and hang in there.