firstly - your clairvoyant sounds like a grade A biatch!! who says that to someone???

as to positivity - i don't know that it changes the outcome, but it makes it easier to deal with. not sure how to explain it, but i've been through a number of IUI and IVF cycles - have had five m/c's, so a pretty rough journey. this last cycle, i went into with a different mindset - i started accupuncture which made me a calmer person than i'd been in the last two years. i just went with the flow - turn up when the clinic tell me to, jab when they tell me to - but don't fret on it. i guess it wasn't positivity - it was more denial that i was doing anything!

but it has worked - we're now somewhere around 8 weeks pregnant...

i would honestly suggest accupuncture for your state of mind if not for your actual cycle - it makes a huge difference - and in all honestly, it's the ONLY thing we really changed this cycle from the last one, so i believe it's made a difference - whether it was the AP itself, or the change in my own attitude i don't know...

HTH

BG