Does Being Positive Make A Difference?

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Dreamtime it seems to me that your clairvoyant lacks the tact and compassion it takes to do what she does - maybe she should consider a career change!!!

It took us 2 years to conceive our daughter and I had a very difficult time coping with the fact that my body wasnt doing what it was designed to do. Throughout my treatment I tried to remain positive but the constant disappointment was making it very hard. My DH was a great support but all he kept saying to me was to stay positive, our baby would come to us when the time was right. I hated hearing this - how could I stay positive when I kept getting shot down time and time again by my own body. I felt like a failure! About 3 days before we were expecting our BT results, my SIL (who "claims" to be a clairvoyant!) had just been to an angel conference and she came back and told us that as much as we wanted a baby it wasnt going to happen for us! Even though I didnt want to believe what she was saying I was completely gutted and I cried for the next 3 days. The day of our blood test came and I was sure it would be a BFN. When we got the call that I was in fact pg we were both over the moon... that was until DH rang his sister an hour later to tell her that she was wrong. Her response.... "Dont get too excited yet, you need to make it to 13 weeks first!" Well that was the end of positivity for me, I spent the next 9 months waiting for something bad to happen to my baby. As hard as I tried I couldnt get her words out of my head. Thankfully our DD was born healthy and happy despite her aunt's predictions.

This time it took us 12 months and with this pregnancy my HCG levels started very low. I had to go back to the clinic every few days for BT's and although my levels were rising (slowly) I couldnt help but think the worst. I'm now 14.5 weeks and everything looks fine. But I dont think I'll every stop worrying - not until I have a healthy baby in my arms.

After my first pg I vowed never to see a clairvoyant while TTC or while pregnant. I worry enough myself as it is without having to hear negative feedback from others.

I dont know if I believe that positive thinking really affects your outcome but I do think that it helps you to cope with what you are being dealt in life. Unfortunately when its one blow after another, our coping mechanisms seem to go out the window and so does our ability to stay positive and look to the future.

I wish you all the best in your journey and I hope with all my heart that you have the joy and success of so many other LTTTCers here and you get your miracle baby very soon