Hmm, yes I think I should try this path, although we are on IUI (round 3 atm), not IVF.....
It's really plain rude to ask & none of their business. I have tried nice too & people just don't let up!
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Hmm, yes I think I should try this path, although we are on IUI (round 3 atm), not IVF.....
It's really plain rude to ask & none of their business. I have tried nice too & people just don't let up!
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the average jo doesnt know the difference so i just say IVF -0 otherwise you have to explain IUI...
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Hey Nic, replied to this on your blog, but just wanted to say that I understand how frustrating, and insensitive those comments can be! Same as when you don't have a child yet, and people think they have a right to tell you to 'hurry up' etc.
And having an only child is ok...i am an only too ;-) It's just something to get your head around (and a situation we may face).... in the meantime, hopefully a BFP awaits you soon
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Oh, good point BG. I am going to take a deep breath & try it next time I am asked!
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Nic.
I think we were very lucky in that the only people who have really commented on our TTC were our siblings, and we are close enough to them to not be bothered by it. We were warned by friends who already had kids that the moment your baby pops out someone will ask you when you are going to have another.
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This issue is just starting to come up for me. DS is nearly two. People are starting to make comments, ask when the next one is coming. I was even asked the other day, straight out, if I was pg!!
Before DP got sick, I just used to say "when this one sleeps through" or "when we are ready" and change the subject. It didn't bother me that much. They were nosy. I am private. I win, y'know cause they don't get a straight answer (that's what I told myself anyway). We didn't have trouble/need AC for DS but now that DP has had chemo and was too sick to bank sperm we have no idea whether we can have more children and we're still a few months away from trying to even find out.
To be fair, people don't think and most if not all of the people making comments to me have no idea about DP being sick. They are not trying to upset me, but I totally agree with BG's blunt honesty approach and I think if it helps them stop and think for the next woman that's a bonus. Lately I've been so tempted to ask people how they think we're supposed to have another baby if DP has been made sterile........
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Thanks again ladies, today marked the day of another 'new' comment........
So do you have a time frame for TTC #2...wtf???
Kaz, I too was asked if I was pg a few months ago to me that is just plain rude!!
I wish you and your DH lots of luck in TTC #2
Amy, reminds me when we first got married only a few weeks latter you get asked so when are you going to have a baby...likes it anyone elses business.
Possums, being an only child too I think we both turned out alright....with the LTTTC journey we have had I think we are just lucky to have the little ones we are blessed with.
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i am overly honest when they comment i get in to way too much information then they can never claim ignorance again.
other wise i just politely tell them that perhaps they should think about the impact what they say has on me their"friend" when they make stupid comments
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Hehehhe couldn't help myself...
Was told the other day (by someone who knows our IVF story nonetheless!) that I should "hurry up and have #2 before DS gets too old" (WTF? He's 13mths!) and not only this but she did it in front of other people!
Without batting an eye I replied "no problems! Make the cheque out to HIVF. $12,000 should get us through one cycle, thank you so much for your generosity!" and she stormed off *evil grin*
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LOVE IT BOC!!
Would have loved to have seen that reaction
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