Pregnancy after miscarriage or loss ~ July 2010

[murraycod]

Ok, so I will read your posts after, but I just noticed that everyone was putting up there scan pictures next to the signatures, so I thaught I'd get on the band wagon!!!! XXXX Back later girls XXXXX

[sunshine and stars]

Help. Can't sleep. Scared and trying not to be. It's not working. 10 weeks and counting.
I have a doc's appt with invitro RE to be discharged to Ob-Gyn. Scared that I will have had another missed miscarriage. Preg symptoms seem to be changing/abating. Had 3 full days of wicked bad headaches.

Sorry to dump, but I am so afraid and wish that I could be happy and not anxious.

Not sure about CVS scan either. It feels risky to me-- and I really don't know what I would do with the results.

Sorry for no personals, but I am not doing too well here...
I have been following everyone's stories though

[murraycod]

Sunshineandstars, darling we understand how you are feeling, so sending cyber huggs your way Try not to stress over symptoms or lack of, I at your stage, had nothing anyone was talking about other than strong AF cramping which terrified me. Try to hang in there, request another scan if it will help your nerves, I won't bother telling you to relax because I know that wont work!!
It's funny how we can all imagine a bad outcome, because we have been there before, and focusing on a happy pregnancy is near impossible when you have suffered a loss.
I just hope that you can begin to enjoy your pregnancy soon enough, and relax a little after your appt XXXXX

Ferrals, I can feel it in my bones that all is well with your little munchkin, I just know it.
I can't begin to imagine how you will be feeling these next few weeks, we are all here for you, everey step XX

Dory, hope you get a good night rest tonight XX

Audax, I'm freezing my buttocks off in Vic, aaargh!!

I did plan to do more persies, but I think my eyelids have another plan for me, so will check back when I can, love to all XXXX

[luna moth]

Hey, Kit, I actually reckon maybe it's a fashion designer! I got some great big thumps when I stuffed up on the sewing machine today, and from the moment of conception my creative brain has been in overdrive, and results have been heaps better since I've been pregnant. Hmmm....

[dory]

Sunshine - hugs coming your way from me too. I can't say it better than Murraycod said it. Don't be afraid to seek out the reassurance you need from the mediicos and from those around you, including us in here. It's understandable to be afraid and anxious, especially coming up to significant dates.... but actually the whole way through. I am not sure the worry ever goes away, but the cause of the worry is different. All you can do is take it one moment at a time. Can you do something nice for yourself - do, eat, make something that you really enjoy? I baked when things got really crazy.... good to focus on something practical but easy and then a whole heap of treaties to quench my emotional eating penchant! My fav was custard/vanilla slice....

Murray - OMG - I had tears in my eyes just seeing little cod up on the screen. Simply and purely gorgeous. I have such a sense of serenity just looking at your little cod. Thankyou!

Audax - I love that you sew.... I am hopeless. Even my knitting has lapsed....I just can't muster much energy to do much at all. A friend is coming to visit and the house is a mess and even though part of me does care, most of me in fact doesn't... my friend comes to see me, not my house ( although hers is always spotless.... but then again, I am not in a postion to keep up with the Jones's right now)

AFM - the pram finally arrived. We've got all of the big ticket items now... just need a bath/basin and 2 buckets with lids. I know a lot of other expectants are way more organised than we are... but even if we hadn't walked the path we have, DH and I would be the same.... leaving it til the last minute. Now all DH has to do is actually arrange everything in the room how we want it. That will be a weekend job. It's sad that we can't do a lot of this sort of stuff together and he has to do it by himself, but that's just what it is for us. I get to supervise, then I get tired so I go and lay down. Just call me Queenie. Even though with all the paraphernalia around, it still doesn't really feel real.... but it is rather cool to see all the stuff. I am petrified of a still birth but apart from that, I am hoping bubs stays snug til next week when my lovely ob returns from his holiday. The locum is nice and very competent.... but after so much it would be nice to share the next step with my lovely obs.

[sunshine and stars]

Hi Friends,
An update-- I had my 10 week scan today and they said all is well! We got to hear the baby's heartbeat for the first time! They said that there was good growth-- the little critter was really squirmy and active. VERY COOL.

This has been an emotional day. First, because I was a nervous, tearful wreck just waiting in the doc's office for the scan...and then, the wonderful news...

And then, tonight, I was called out to give prayers of final blessing (ie last rites) to a lady who was close to death...who subsequently passed while I was there (I work as a pastor).

So, it's bedtime for me and the little one-- God, I hope I sleep.

Thanks for your kind thoughts and understanding-- It really helped. I can't pastor myself...LOL

[dory]

Sunshine - what an exhausting day... so glad that you got to hear little bubs heartbeat - it is simply one of the best sounds in the whole world - sleep tight.

AFM - quiet day here. Obs appointment this morning - last one with the locum and my obs returns on monday. All going well - my BP has come down, and bubs is doing just fine and is not engaged. I didn't think bubs was, but it was good to find out for sure. I got rather TMI about what would happen if labour started before the stitch came out, so now I am even more hyper vigilant about labour signs. And DH will be too. Apart from that - I slept like a princess for at least half the day, surrounded by furry little heaters ( cats) and then just relaxed. Have to take a fur baby to the vet tomorrow for his 6 weeks post treatment check up so some bloods can be taken to see if the treatment actually worked. We think it did as there are none of the symptoms that he had previously. But he ( the cat) will be one very unhappy camper tomorrow, until he gets home again.

Take care.

[JennaJayen]

Dory - I'm gtting so excited for you! Not long to go now I remember that dream I had a couple of months ago about you calling me up and telling me you'd made it to 41 weeks lol I still think it was rather funny

Sunshine and Stars - I'm glad everything was perfect on your scan My grandfather did some work as a pastor, and I still get people back in the town he lived in stopping me on the street when I visit my grandmother just to tell me that they are still so thankful for what he did for them.

afm - nothing much happening here, woke up with some cramping, but thankfully no spotting. Still a bit crampy but I'm making sure that I drink heaps as that seems to work on stopping it.
Antway, I must go. Hubby has made me some burrito's and I need to go and eat them

Have a great night all!

[Tegam]

This has been an emotional day. First, because I was a nervous, tearful wreck just waiting in the doc's office for the scan...and then, the wonderful news...

wow sounds like one ride you have been on today. Glad all was good at the scan!

AFM - quiet day here. Obs appointment this morning - last one with the locum and my obs returns on monday. All going well - my BP has come down, and bubs is doing just fine and is not engaged. I didn't think bubs was, but it was good to find out for sure. I got rather TMI about what would happen if labour started before the stitch came out, so now I am even more hyper vigilant about labour signs. And DH will be too. Apart from that - I slept like a princess for at least half the day, surrounded by furry little heaters ( cats) and then just relaxed. .

YAY bugger off locum, Dory wants her own OB! How many weeks will you be when the stitch comes out??

Great news that you have all the baby stuff! How exciting!

Nice that you rested. Good baby isnt engaged yet!

Dory - I'm gtting so excited for you! Not long to go now I remember that dream I had a couple of months ago about you calling me up and telling me you'd made it to 41 weeks lol I still think it was rather funny

afm - nothing much happening here, woke up with some cramping, but thankfully no spotting. Still a bit crampy but I'm making sure that I drink heaps as that seems to work on stopping it.
Antway, I must go. Hubby has made me some burrito's and I need to go and eat them

Have a great night all!

OH 41 weeks, you are just NOT nice! hehe

Glad that the crampy feeling has gone, maybe you just needed a rest day! Enjoy your dinner!


afm: well decided that looking after 3 kids and being pregnant wasnt enough to do while DH was away that i have re do DS room. Two trips to ikea and new paint and its GREAT! Cant wait to start on the girls room. But i must say after tuckshop this morning, i am stuffed! Off to bed now.

oh and 21 weeks tomorrow!

[murraycod]

SunshieAndStars, great news darling!!!!!

Have a great weekend everyone X


Dory, hope Kitty is ok and all is well XXXXX

[Hope!]

HI everyone. I hope you all dont mind me jumping on board this thread. I noticed some girls from my Belly Buddies group mentioned this thread so I thought Id come along.

Looking forward to getting to know you all.

[Porsche]

Hi Ladies

I'm just joining you girls (Thanks Murraycod) as I got my BFP this morning. My BETA was 441 so looking good so far. Just waitng impatiently already for 10 weeks so we can relax a little.

Hi Ferrals & Murrarcod I made it!

[murraycod]

WELCOME PORCHE!!WELCOME HOPE!!!!
Now you can go searching for a new ticker!!!! EEEEEKKKKK Don't feel silly to, it helps you and us all keep track of where you are at!!!

[MsKara]

I'm a few pages behind so quick catch up for me.

Kit LOL I loved your list!!

Dory Arranging the room and decorating is the part I'm really going to love! Enjoy the supervising! Just keep focusing on the happy ending we all know you will have. Give yourself permission to use some of those positive vibes you like to send everyone else!! Hope things went well for your furbaby today.

Murray ohhh that scan is so cute!!

sunshine Congrats on the heartbeat!! It sounds like you had a rollercoaster day yesterday.

Jenna oh now I just want burritos!!

Tegam for 21 weeks!!!

Hope welcome and congratulations!! Twins!! double congrats!!!

Porsche welcome and congrats!

AFM I don't know how right now, but I'm successfully holding myself back from a full blown panic attack. I realised today that next week I'll be 10 weeks, and next week is the also EDD of my first pg, which, coincidentally also ended at 10 weeks.

I know I have great symptoms at the moment and we've seen the HB now which is great, but I'm so anxious! My next u/s isn't until 19 weeks, and I couldn't bear get there and finding another missed mc. I've been thinking I might see if I can get a referral from my GP for another u/s at the end of next week. I just have to keep it together until then!

[Mildez]

Welcome Porsche and Hope.

Your ticker is gorgeous Murraycod with your gorgeous bub. He/she is just so cute. Your 10weeks ahead of me going by your ticker., I just hot 7weeks today.

I have been very sad today. My foal I have been anxiously counting down the weeks til it was due was born today 2months early and I am just heartbroken as he obviously didn't make it. Then I dug a hold to bury him and I have been cramping ever since. I didn't think I could ask my mother to do it for me as it was a pretty big job and I didn't want any animals to get him plus no one knows I am pregnant. So on a hole I feel terrible and I can't stop crying as I am sick of my belovered animals dying or having m/c's and there been nothing I can do about it. I feel like giving them all away (the animals that is). Then to make it worse I kept thinking about things that has happened to me as a midwife and thats just been fueling my tears. Maybe its the preg hormones making me twice as bad then I worry about the stress this is having on my pregnancy.

[Mildez]

MsKara I think I was posting at the same time. It took me ages to write my post because of my stupid tears. Try not to stress about not having a scan until 19weeks. If you see your Dr/Midwife after 12weeks they will be able to feel the fundus above the pelvic brim and hear your little bubbas HB. I can't wait til then either although I wont be able to see it hearing it will be reassuring also. Can you have the NT scan just to see bub? I know heaps of ladies that do it just so they can have a squizzy. Thats part of the reason I will have it although I would doubt I would do anything about the results if they were not what we are expecting.

[ferrals5]

Porsche-OMG! OMG! i just jumped on line before leaving for work and woohoo what do i see pregnant porsche so happy for you.

Hope-great to see you could join us here these girls have been my life line since losing Abbi and i hope and pray i get to stay in here with them until we all have our babies.

Mildez-how are you today has the cramping settled?

[Mildez]

Dory I am sure your Dr told you this and I'm just repeating what he said but if labour starts and the stitch is still in just head on in quickly as although the stitch will do no harm to bub its harder to remove once the cervix is starting to dilate. Even with labour started or your waters broken it wont be a big issue you will just want it out. Its much easier to get it out before labour or when there is still length in the cervix. If not it will just be more uncomfortable with contractions and sitting still why they do it. Do you have an appointment to have it removed soon? Where I work they generally are removed at 37weeks if labour hasn't commenced before hand.

Ferrals thanks for asking. The cramps aren't as bad although they got worse overnight and my back was killing me. Everytime I go to the loo I expect to see blood but so far and FX nothing. I have a 6hr car trip today I can not get out of which is a worry. In DH very uncomfortable ute.