I know what you mean a lot of the time it depends who I am speaking too, I get extremely emotional when asked is Jack my first etc, and I say yes, I feel like I have neglected Katy disrespected ehr in some way but then I think I know the truth Jack will know the truth when he is older enough to understand the important people in ours lives know the truth and thats what matters



Hopefully without offending anyone here ...............

I actually found my multiple miscarriages faded into relative insignificance after the loss of Caitlyn but that may also have been because all of them were very early. I never feel the desire to tell of them unless pressed for details or for medical appointments etc. I do, happily and frequently, talk about Caitlyn. There is so much stigma attached to a stillbirth (and miscarriage) that I feel my openess is (hopefully) a way to take away some of that.
I am the same way ... only real close friends family and medical people realise this is our 7th pg but will hopefully result in the birth of our 2nd live child and 3rd child together