Depends on my mood really and who I am talking to. When DS was born I could honestly answer that he was my first son. Now I answer I have two babies at home. If they are stupid enough to ask further I tell them about Caitlyn. Usually that I had a stillborn daughter before my son. Same as when they say they are close together in age (DS and DD) I usually tell them it took us a long time to successfully get our first baby (both Caitlyn and DS so I can be referring to both / either)

Hopefully without offending anyone here ...............

I actually found my multiple miscarriages faded into relative insignificance after the loss of Caitlyn but that may also have been because all of them were very early. I never feel the desire to tell of them unless pressed for details or for medical appointments etc. I do, happily and frequently, talk about Caitlyn. There is so much stigma attached to a stillbirth (and miscarriage) that I feel my openess is (hopefully) a way to take away some of that.