I didn't find out with either of my girls and I'm so glad I didn't. As both births didn't go quite as planned I had the most wonderful ending when DP was able to present our baby and tell me "it's a girl". It was so special to have DP be the one to tell me what we had rather than someone we had never met before in our lives. It was his special moment in the delivery room.

As tellytubby said, we just bought a few white essentials (and I think white is gorgeous on a newborn, so pure) and everyone flooded us with pink clothes - I think we bought one outfit and all the others were gifts.