We weren't going to find out - right up until the night before the ultrasound and then we both caved in and found out. At first I thought I was just doing it because hubby all of a sudden, last minute decided he wanted to know and was worried it may ruin things a little for me. However I'm so glad we found out - it has really helped with bonding , this may sound weird but it seemed to make the pregnancy more real for both of us, like the baby all of a sudden had a personality. Good luck with your decision, either way i don't think you could be disappointed.