oh firsttimemummy, take care of you.
like the others have said, so long as it was a one-off i think bubs will be okay. I'm more concerend about you! sounds like your partner needs a sitting down and a good talking to.
like someone else said, being pregnant isn't a free pass to be painful - but he NEEDS to realise that you need love and support and not pettiness. You have a medical reason for going a bit crazy (believe me i've been there too)with all the hormones and changes you are copoing with, what's his?
i'm not sure the "getting back at him'' by hurting yourself policy is the best choice tho hun. sounds like you both need to sit down for a long chat on resolving conflict.
there's not much you can do about either of your behaviours BUT you can choose to learn from it. So maybe it happened for a reason cos once bub arrives, it's a different ball game.
I hope you can sort it and bothfeel you've moved onto a better place in your relationship.
thats what i was saying to him last night...we were sitting down having a snuggly make up night, and i asked him whether we're going to be okay?
He asked what i meant, and i told him im stressing now that things will get worse after bub is born, ...you know, arguement, fights etc.
He said we'll be fine, as long as when one of us start getting hot headed, we let the other one know, so we can sit down and talk about it, rather than yelling at each other like crazy baboons...lol
I hope he is right.
Lately ive been getting very lonely and upset, as he works 6 1/2 days a week, and leaves at 7am, and gets home at 6pm....i feel like i only see him for 2-3 hours a day, cause we go to bed at 9pm.
All day i feel cooped up in a big house, with nothing to do but housework, and watching the clock..
Im soo scared that this will become worse, when im stuck at home in a big empty house, with so much work to do, and a screaming bub.
hun that sounds like a terrible thing to go through. I have been there, an ex was driving really fast when I had the 2 older boys in the car (they were 1 and 2) and I told him to slow down, he got cranky and went faster and I was so scared for us I sat there bawling. I slapped him too but it just made him more angry. It is terrifying when you aren't in control and there is nothing you can do. He is a d!ck for putting you through that!
Maybe try some councelling? No arguments should end up with broken things and screaming. They should be discussed and if it gets too heated, walk away and take it back up when your both calm. One thing I found helped with my ex's was if something REALLY ****ed me off, I would leave it until later, when we were both snuggling up or laying in bed chatting and bring it up in a way that wasn't attacking them.
Like saying "it scares me when we're going really fast in the car", that way your not saying YOU scare me when YOU drive like an idiot (even though that is what happened) They are more likely to accept your feelings then accept critisism you know? Men are hot headed at the best of times.
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