To tell or not to tell?

[~Kim~]

I second DC's not letting your LO find out lol. Darcy did the same to us...though it was much later in the piece (like 36weeks).

We didn't find out with DD, so it was easy enough for us to get away with it with DS. But I found out accidentally at 34weeks. We told people we knew but only one person ever knew with 100% assurance (ie not the daycare teachers from Darcy blabbing), and that was the day he (the person) died.

This time I have been up front telling everyone we aren't finding out. That way even if we do - it's a plausible lie

[Taryn]

Hi CM, we found out and haven't told one single person! Except on here! We just told people we didn't find out and it's actually really nice having a little secret just for us!

[Cranky Kitten]

The trouble I can see with knowing but not telling is that once people know that you've found out, they'll pester till you tell them! We found out we're having a little boy and have been happy to tell people, but now they're all asking us to spill on what names we've picked - and that we're not telling, but keeping just for us.

So if you do decide to find out, I wouldn't be letting on that you know by just saying bub wasn't co-operative and it was too hard to tell

[megs]

We found out with our 3rd child, and we have also found out with this one. We just say no we didn't find out. It is my stock standard reply, we haven't told the boys as they would certainly tell everyone.

I find it quite nice knowing when no one else does.

[UntoldAngel]

We have found out this time round, but just telling people we didn't... Except I've told a couple of people sshhhh!

[~Hestia~]

Kim - yes that's what I should've done in the first place!

MM - good idea

Taryn - yes it would be lovely to have a little secret! Oooh look at your ticker, counting down now!

CK - yeah same here with Moo, some people would NOT give up trying to guess his name. Very annoying! Good point about the pestering!

Megs - Not telling the kids sounds like a good start

UA - LOL I'm sure I'll tell a select few if we decide to 'not tell' too

Thanks everyone for your tips and opinions, lots to think about!

[Jewel]

We found out both times. The first time it wasn't that much of a secret. Family knew mostly, etc.
The second time around we decided we could tell 2 ( or less) people that we trust each and then no one else would know until the birth. Our trusted people did their jobs well and didn't tell anyone nor let on they knew.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

[~Hestia~]

Jewel - that's a good idea about being allowed two people to tell.

Peanutter - well done on keeping it a secret! We're both pretty stubborn too