Chantal,

To be honest, I don't think it will be a good idea for her to be there at the birth for you. She may say she is fine, but it may take a week or so to kick in that she has lost her baby.

Being at your birth to support you might push her a little too far (more than she thinks it will) and emotionally, she might not realize, she will not be ready.

I Suffered a loss at 8w2d a couple of months ago and I am at a complete loss to how it has affected me.

So I hope I have helped :hugs:

Tanya