You are right hon, you need to focus on you now. Her healing will come with time, and you need time to get ready for a baby.

One thing a friend said to me (who I trained with, one of the other girls was also due at the time) was that the best thing you can do is just remember them later. She said at first there was lots of support, but it started dropping off and it was still so raw. So perhaps if you really want to do something, send her some flowers or a box of fruit (Roses Only now have Fruit Only) as she also said that the simple things like shopping get hard - so people that sent over meals and shopping helped more than anything. She understood people didnt know what to say... but just wanted to know they were there.

Don't feel bad focusing on you. You NEED to. Perhaps you can do some pre-natal yoga? Its great for birth preparation and relaxation.