Gracie - I was in nearly the same situation as you but in reverse. We had decided that we WOULD find out but then at the US DH was adament that he did not want to know. He was so adament that I agreed, as it seemed so important to him. I was really annoyed at the time but honesty I found I came to regard that little person growing inside me as so much more than a boy or a girl. Our baby was just that our baby and when it came time to give birth it we even forgot to ask?

With our DD I didn't want to find out again but realised that it was more practical so we knew what to buy and even though we had it confirmed again and again I still wouldn't believe it until I had actually given birth.

Someone in our bellybuddies had the tech write it down so that they didn't have to know but it was there if they wanted it. Might be an idea