I didn't find out and the midwife saying "it's a girl" and me saying "Esme!?" having had the name lined up and feeling like my little girl i'd dreamed of was coming home to me was so incredible - the moment is etched on my heart.

I def wouldn't find out in the future as the moments of discovery (her of me and me of her) after birth are timeless and beautiful in my memory, and nothing could have been better, even though i am also INCREDIBLY impatient (although having a baby makes you work on that LOL). It was one thing i felt was very very worth waiting for. I also wouldn't find out next time because i know from having done it once that i personally would find it very hard to be disappointed with the perfect little girl i caught coming from my body even if she was my 6th baby, all little girls, whereas when i have only a bump i might have enough "distance" from the reality of my specific little daughter to feel regret that she isn't a boy iykwim - just my opinion though, that's probably different for everyone.

My SIL was told at the 16-weeks scan it was a boy and then because bubs was breech had to have a scan at 35weeks while they did an external version (which worked no worries) and found it was a girl. She was devastated and still hadn't really come to terms even by the birth. Not the norm but it can happen.

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