I really do believe that it depends on how you see the pain as to how you can deal with it. I was ecstatic to have contractions and feel every single one because to me it was my body's way of telling me it was doing what it was supposed to. I had a stop start labour with my first and I hardly felt a thing. I think visualisation helps you to go with the pain. Knowing that with each wave the start, the peak and the slow calm afterwards, that I am one step closer to seeing my baby. Fear makes it hurt worse and I know this because towards the end of my birth with Seth I started to get very scared, scared of my scar and how it would take it and with every contraction it hurt more because that fear was present. When I relaxed again it hurt less and I was more able to deal with the pain and focus on my job, which was to birth my baby. Yes active labour helps, as does certain positions, techniques and support. I know it sounds corny but if you can focus properly you do become "one with the pain". Most importantly its about the mindset, its about feeling supported, empowered and in control. All these things are possible. Educate yourself and surround yourself with like minded people, negativity breads doubt and doubt causes fear, and fear causes pain.

Goodluck