Aw hon! You poor thing, a stressy fight on top of the GD worries!

The problem with men is that they see a vent as a problem you want solving. SO when you're worrying about your weightgain/GD etc. and mention it to him, he thinks you're asking him to SOLVE your worries, and then when you appear to behave in a way which is counteractive to the worres being solved (i.e. by going with a sugar craving etc.) he is mad and feels his advice is for nothing.

This is very annoying for us girls because 90% of the time we just wanted to tell someone how we were feeling, right? I actually SAY to DP before i begin moaning "I'm not looking for you to fix this, can i just have a vent?" and he says, "sure" and, i swear, only half-listens to what i'm saying and listens more to my tone of voice and once he can hear that i'm calming down he cuts in and changes the subject - it works for us but we had a few pretty big misunderstandings before we got to it!

So you end up feeling like he wants you to ask permission for whatever you want to eat/do, and he feels like he's made loads of really brilliant suggestions to "solve" your vent and are ignoring him.

As for "giving in", if you have GD the sugar cravings are VERY VERY real and even if you don't, anyone who's had a PG craving knows how insistent they can be (when i was PG i once ate 8 oranges one after another, and another time THREE boxes of sushi, sitting on an airport floor LOL) so forgive yourself and explain to DH that when you share your worries he needn't feel you're looking for advice, just a shoulder to cry on - tell him what a good listener he is, a little flattery helped my DP realise i really did value his listening skills even when a solution wasn't what i needed.

HTH and big

Bec