Dear Delicate Dove...

I am 34 weeks pregnant, and have eaten "bad" foods throughout this whole pregnancy- you only ate 1 mars bar??? I think I once polished off two in a two hour sitting once.

I'm using your thread here to just remind us all not to be too hard on ourselves... I am really dissapointed in the number of women (especially!) who feel the need to comment on pregnant women's size, how big/small/fat you are... the majority of people that do this have children themselves.

You have a very important job right now and that is to take care of yourself and grow your beautiful baby...my first pregnany saw me gain 20kg and I was scrupulous with the foods that I ate- yet I still put on a lot of weight (Yet this pregnancy I have LOST WEIGHT!). Maybe your husband is a little stressed about the GD- but is just not good at expressing it... and he can't help by fixing anything about the situation (as reinforced by Hoobley!) so instead he has just over reacted a little.

Enjoy your mars bars... take care of you and remember that you have a very important job right now. Make an effort that the majority of what you eat is good (which I am sure it is) but we are soo bombarded by what weight you are supposed to gain, pictures of very thin women with big bumps and that any food other than vegetables are bad- that we forget to enjoy the "Cravings"...you need to be able to tell your little person stories when they get bigger about what they loved to eat in your tummy- and unfortunately vegetables just won't tell a good story!

Good luck and talk to him

E's Mum

Try talking to him and explaining what you have said to us,