anyway i think i will chat and see the expenses and perhaps driving licence expenses and a bit of pocket money some occasional waxing and mecines is what she needs and it probably is not half of the youth allowance, and if it is at least i can see what the expenses they say they have are. i think this child is much less troubled and difficult than others have been, she hasnt been through hell the others went through from their dad , so maybe we can work out soemthing fairer.
I'm glad that you are able to feel like you can do this. This is a step in the right direction.

I went through hell with my dad (and at times still do) I still managed to work part time, finish my HSC and go onto further study.
By acting and thinking the way that you are is perpetuating this way of behaviour/thinking onto your children. They are simply learning/doing what they see.Something to think about....

Only you have the power to change how you let these people treat you.