Cate - put her in for one day a week - he can't tell you not to if he can't do it himself. Once you move out your life will be more your own and independence is a fantastic feeling.
Like the others said - do ask for help, gather your friends around you - this is when we shine the most. I've many good memories of the girls coming to help me move - the ex glowering in the background whilst we all giggle and try our best to manouvre washing machines and shelves, load them into our tiny cars, and screaming whilst trying not to back trailers into fences - generally making sport out of a crappy and uncomfortable situation. Then into the clean, new beginning with a champagne toast out of coffee mugs.

You do need to get out and let your hair down on a regular basis, it can be hard getting babysitters no matter what your situation. It was easier for my (no kid) friends to visit me, so I made Wednesday night drinky-poos a weekly event. I did yummy snacks and friends would drop in on the way from work for a quick or long catch up.
If we were too poor to go out, or one of us couldn't get a babysitter we'd feed the kids (ususally about 4-5 of them), put them to bed with a video, play insane cards games over several drinks and laugh our asses off all night. No taxis, everyone stay over and we'd all cook hungover pancakes the next day and laze around with the kids.
We were all young and learning the ropes financially (read: broke), but it was without a doubt the best time of my life.
You have so much to gain from this, so much to look forward to. Keep that in mind when you are thinking (rightfully) evil thoughts about Terry, 'cos now you have started - I'm sure you will probably find a few more things to be annoyed about unfortunatley....keep yourself focussed on the end result. Happiness, security - whatever you decide.

xoxoxooxx