Hi Jas
Thank you for the advice on CSA. I hadn’t even thought about them reducing my payments. I’ll go and see CSA this week sometime. I would just rather he had nothing to do with her. Regarding the house, I’m trying to get legal aid but they’ve rejected my application twice just because I own a car worth $25K. They tell me to sell it first and then they’ll consider it. So, lawyers are out for now until I hear back from Legal Aid, I’ve applied again. Meditation is where I’d like to sort things out but it’s up to my ex on that one. I too think he might take me to task over him paying the mortgage but at the moment that’s his child maintenance. I’ve sent text messages on numerous occasions asking to pay half the mortgage and also to work out selling the house so I’ll use those too if he goes down that avenue.
Hi GiGi- I have a feeling that he’s going to come back in to my life again, as soon as he’s finished being a bachelor. This is what I’m struggling with right now because I don’t know that I’m strong enough to say no to him this time. I really wanted our family and we were supposed to be getting married in May. I’m not sure how I’ll react if he does want us back. My friends all tell me to forget him but as you would know, you just can’t do that when you both have a child together. My friends are all single or married of course. As for the photo’s – at least I have my family here and they’re great, I guess it’s just those times at home when you’re alone and she does something gorgeous but you don’t have time, or when she’s asleep on your shoulder and you just wish you had a photo of it. It’s not the end of the world though and I’ll have those memories in my head and heart forever. Great idea about the playgroups though and taking the camera. I usually have it on me everywhere I go. I haven’t joined any mothers/play groups yet as I was a bit embarrassed about having to use nipple shields whilst breast feeding and it can get a bit messy. I’m getting better at it though and I understand the other mothers are understanding, it’s just awkward. I’m hoping to one day get her off them and slowly we’re making progress but I have flat nipples so it’s a bit hard.