Oh, the joys of being newly separated.

I just got off the phone to XH. He rang to discuss tomorrow. Monday is normally "his" night with the girls, but he had a couple of extra nights with them over Christmas, so I asked if they could stay with me tomorrow night since their new bunk beds will be arriving and they are very excited about getting them (and so am I!). Up until 5 minutes ago, that was not going to be a problem.

We agreed that I would get them at 10.30am. We agreed that I would drop them back to his place on Tuesday morning (I have to go to work). Then he asked if I wanted to come over tonight for a movie and a shag. (his words not mine - and he has tried similar lines a number of times!!!) It went from a light-hearted "no thank you" from me, to him starting to ask questions about how we got to this point and why I left etc etc. I refuse to talk about that stuff, because over the last 2 months, any time we have gone down that path, it ends up with us fighting. I left because of emotional abuse, and as soon as we start talking about "what happened" the abuse is denied, and at the same time more abuse takes place! So now I just refuse to talk about it - which then causes a fight, but at least I get out before he starts with the name-calling and derogatory remarks.

So, I refused to talk about it and he lost his temper pretty quickly and told me I can't have the girls tomorrow after all, and hung up on me.

And just now he has called back to say if I won't talk about our relationship, he won't be flexible with the girls.

I am so mad with him right now, how dare he use them to try to FORCE me to talk about things I don't want to talk about.

I hate it that he can still upset me with one phone call. And I hate it that he uses the girls to do it. I hate him.