Luckily for me there are more ups than downs, but the downs are always about the girls, which makes them very hard to deal with. He is so sure that he is right and that there is no validity to any of the reasons I have given for leaving. Here is an extract from the email he just sent me....

"You have the list of actions you have taken that are disgraceful, I am happy to discuss anything in mediation, your actions speak volumes, any reasonable person will see how frustrating you are to deal with. You don't seem to understand that everyone is seeing you for who you are, all I asked is for you to stop it around me, I don't care how nasty you are around anyone who is unfortunate enough to be involved in your new life except for the girls. You just refuse to see how horrible you have become and how you didn't need to try and tear me down to walk away, I have never asked you to come back, just be accountable for what you did and help me finalise things to move forward.

Everyone that knows us knows your words about me are lies, but they are lies that are designed to get a reaction, justify your actions and to hurt me, so be it...but you need to learn to cope with the results of your mistreatment or stop."

As far as I can tell, his claims of mistreatment are that a) I left and broke up our perfect little family and b) have not apologised for doing so. He is so determined to bring me to my knees and grovel to him for treating him so bad (and in the past, most of our arguments have ended with me apologising everything I have ever said or done). This kind of communication is just how it has always been with us, and the pattern has always been the same - we argue, I apologise (often it was my fault that we argued, but in his eyes it was ALWAYS my fault), he gets sex or sulks until either I give in or it turns into another full-blown argument. Finally I am no longer going to put up with him constantly manipulating situations and making me out to be a terrible person, and so of course it's 10 times as bad dealing with him now!