I think Misty has given you some good advice darl: the decision you make shouldn't be about other people and how they make you feel. Anyone can make anyone feel anything according to their agenda (be it conscious or not)... what's more important is that you share you life with a person with whom you share core values and chemistry. How you feel shouldn't depend on another... it should come from within. Sorry for the lecture... but I see many women especially falling into the trap of placing the responsibility of how they feel onto others, mainly their men. It's not their responsibility to make you feel anything. You might feel a certain way when you are with them... but you have to own it... it's a subtle difference. It goes for everything: your appearance, your skills, your weaknesses... how you perceive those things needs to be the result of you drawing your own conclusion... not you needing them to define you and influence you. For example: I have a big butt LOL I'm kinda ok with it... many women would not be ok with it... my DH likes it (that's a bonus) but if he didn't like it then it would NOT mean I had an ugly butt... it would just mean that we disagree and don't share an opinion. I don't need my DH to like my butt... it's a bonus if he does. More importantly my DH knows that I am sensitive about my butt and regardless of how he feels is polite... politeness is an important core value with me. I love my DH because he is polite NOT because he likes my big butt LOL does that make any sense?


Oh and regarding those light bulbs. Tell your XH that for his theory about it not being fair to replace them with the right type of globe then that means that he ALSO must leave the place in the EXACT condition that he rented it... no wear and tear at all... not even one tiny mark on the carpet, or any marks on the walls... because by his rules that's not fair for the owner to have to rectify on his departure Oh and that he shouldn't have signed the lease agreement... most likely it will say something about maintaining the property, being responsible for replacing globes etc.