Thank you for your kind words. It has been very interesting reading through the experiences of single mothers with their XP or XH and in the end it will be okay cause my son has a mother that loves him who is surrounded by a strong family. XP and his family could not contribute emotionally to me which I still hopes will change but I won't be giving into his demands such as "having a go" at me cause I would not let him take the DVD of the 4D Scan that my mother paid for (he needs to ask for her permission cause it is her property) or trying to guilt me that I am taking away him attending ante-natal classes if I have my aunt or mother attend as a support person but why would I want to spend hours alone with someone who talks to me with disrespect and says hurtful things that destroy my self-esteem - emotional abuse? I understand it is hard for him but where and when do I start to put me and my son first opposed to dealing with someone who would rather been under the influence of alcohol etc with his friends. I am having a good old vent now and thinks that he can obtain 50% custody when my son is 3 months old. . . I think I will exclude him and his family from the delivery and the first day after his birth so I can at least enjoy him before they start or don't start. I hate his behaviour - It is just plain old cruel