Just take it one day at a time and do whats right for you, not what everyone else is doing. Sounds simple but when I first brought Aiden home I ws so busy trying to do what I thought I should do and what XMIL was telling me to do, I didnt really bond very well with DS, seeing him more as a chore than my son. But once I got the courage to stand up and say hey this is what were doing and were happy this way everything just fell into place for us.