And further - there's nothing wrong with someone thinking, "hey, my partner really likes it when I do xyz to my hair/nails/face/clothes/pubic mound ... I think I'll do that again, because I want to please him/her". That's really different from the partner saying, "hey, lady friend - all the adult entertainers I see are surgically and chemically modified, and by gum, they have bald beavers. Go get waxed, will you?*"