I wish I knew the answer to this question A, but I think the actual answer is that there is no answer. You will get through this, maybe you won't meet your definition of coping, but you will get through this with the help of your DH and family. You may cry, scream, break down or you might not. I wish there was a way that you could predetermine how you would feel and work out a way to deal with it but I just don't think it's possible. Please know that we are all here thinking of you and supporting you and I will be sending you strength on Saturday and say a little prayer for you guys. Xx